jabberwacky: beautiful
August 30, 2008
Since we haven’t Jabberwackyed in a while, here’s a refresher on how this works.
- Post the first word or phrase that comes to mind when you read the word above yours in the comments.
- You can challenge the preceding commenter to explain if you don’t understand the connection they made when they wrote their word. (If you know your word choice won’t make sense to others, take time to explain it.)
Starter word: beautiful (compliments of Melissita over at Nature Girl)
You’re
<B
HOT
texas
rodeo
@atangie says:
drive
@danielleH says:
way
@atangie says:
will
you?
Absolutely!
@atangie says:
Definitely not!
“You can’t have candy!”
@atangie says:
It rots your teeth.
@moweezle says:
whitening
gimick
idea
glitter (we just got done with crafts)
@cassgirl says:
LAS VEGAS
lights
dark
night
hugaboochin thingy mabob
@cassgirl says:
Ahhhhh…………..
(that calls for an explanation anti-blogger)….or am i missing some secret code here?
@cassgirl says:
(( lets see if AB can get himself out of this one))
a thing tam does with her husband at night……the word i cannot use as it is family friendly over here..
so, heidi, was your “aaaah” your word to follow “huggaboochin”???
i’m going to follow A-B’s “huggabooch” remark…
business time
yea AB, that explains everything…
@atangie says:
[ah ha ha ha!!! you all are crackin' me up!]
@atangie says:
taking it from
business time…
break room
quickey
@cassgirl says:
AHHHHHH…….
tongue depressant
fudge stickle
jello pudding pop
milktart
@atangie says:
bill cosby
@atangie says:
oops….
what is a milktart?
@cassgirl says:
fat albert
the cosby show
@atangie says:
raven
bird
“”"milktart is a wonderful south african pie /tart made to enjoy with tea or coffee in afrternoons like noon or for lunch desert….pudding is south african for desert wich milktart is ….i will try and stay american for the sake of the game”"
kfc
(i’m sure melissita followed your train of thought JUST fine!)
colonel sanders
soaring
colonel mustard
@atangie says:
**You don’t have to stay American on this family friendly site. It is a multi-cultural site as well… thanks for filling me in. sounds yummy.
clue
you will have to visit to enjoy
wait…my computer didn’t refresh fast enough. Oh well.
[don't be deceived, angie... it's GROSS]
[try again, mandie!]
liar
@atangie says:
pants on fire
(how sure are you that i followed, alece? ::wink::)
take it off
major disaster
@atangie says:
I am the very model of a modern major general
[HUH?!]
[well, working from that phrase anyway...]
model airplanes
uncle
[he builds them...particularly the ones he has flown as a fighter pilot for the USAF...i heart him]
[that is awesome! thanks for that story tidbit, michelle!]
aunt
aunt Jamima [i am in the mood for pancakes]
@cassgirl says:
syrup
@atangie says:
["I am the very model of a modern major general" is a line from a song in the musical Pirates of Penzance (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Major-General%27s_Song). The connection was 'major']
@atangie says:
sappy
[thanks, friend. i knew you had a good reason! and i've never seen that by the way!]
pemberley
@atangie says:
Of course you haven’t…. it’s a musical. hee hee hee
@atangie says:
Mandy!
@atangie says:
[if you don't get the connection visit: http://mandythompson.com/2008/08/30/captionate/ ]
bff
4-eva!
adam
@atangie says:
girl-friend!
boyfriend
NO THAT WAS NOAH
@atangie says:
oops…
pool boy
@atangie says:
innuendo
nintendo. (that’s what that word sounded like in my brain!)
[heading off for some lunch... be back later!]
@atangie says:
(gottcha)
Super Mario
green and red
@cassgirl says:
mm’s
@atangie says:
snickers
@cassgirl says:
nougat
@atangie says:
crunchy
@atangie says:
[i don't know about you, but i am craving some sweets right now!]
@cassgirl says:
((ME TOO)))
(I’m very hungry and they didn’t invite us to lunch ;)!!
peanuts
husband (he LOVES them)
snoopy
@cassgirl says:
MY HERO
Dylan (I told him today he was my hero)
@cassgirl says:
bob
@cassgirl says:
((the singer of course))
larry
OK AB NOW THAT YOU SAID “MILKTART”. YOU OWE ME A RECIPE!!! i LOVE THAT STUFF AND WOULD LOVE TO MAKE IT FOR DAN THOUGH HE WILL HATE IT. BUT YOU OWE ME ONE!
hairy
gorilla
@cassgirl says:
((brandi your photography is breathtaking))
@cassgirl says:
bananas
(awww…thanks)
pudding
@atangie says:
African dessert
yum!
gummy bears.
colorful
@atangie says:
somewhere over the rainbow
@cassgirl says:
POT OF GOLD
My Fellow Americans
[If you've seen that movie, you'll understand]
ha ha… I must of hit submit at the same time as Heidi….
To “Pot of Gold”
Lucky Charms
leprechaun
ice cold beer
[HUH????]
aggha sorry to african again
leprechaun is irish
irish goes to pub
pub is ice cold beer
just not good with these stupid english
[oh, my lunch boy, you are too funny. you are on a roll today!]
yes please
for here or to go
take out
@cassgirl says:
I want Now
@cassgirl says:
plesase???
(cuz the manners, but I am famished)
thank you
@cassgirl says:
for what?
ask
@atangie says:
ax
@cassgirl says:
firewood
@atangie says:
Pinocchio
@atangie says:
[are those A.B.'s pearly whites up there? nice teeth]
@cassgirl says:
nose
allergies
@atangie says:
and throat
@cassgirl says:
alece
Cyrnano de Bergerac
@atangie says:
[sorry april]
@cassgirl says:
(sorry April))
that was in resonse to pinoccho… wow this moves fast!
@atangie says:
[what is Cyrnano de Bergerac? and why is 'it' connected to alece?]
@cassgirl says:
(you should try comment fest… that’s fast and somewhat confusing at times)
@cassgirl says:
Alece was connected with throat, I butted in too.
@cassgirl says:
((cyrano has a HUGE nose))
@atangie says:
[aahhh ... thank you... :-)]
@atangie says:
so from: Cyrnano de Bergerac
I will put: snuffleupugous
@cassgirl says:
(lets start over)
Saturday
@atangie says:
Heidi!!!
@atangie says:
:-) it is officially sunday in my neck of the woods. you all play nice now. :-) see ya soon.
@atangie says:
good night. ;-)
@cassgirl says:
I’m going to bed too.. cya!!!!, adios, auvoir, ciao,
Did I miss anybody??
@cassgirl says:
Oh… Alece… Love ya!!!
taking it from saturday
rugby
Ross (from friends the one where he plays rugby to impress Emily. too funny!)
dinosaurs
t-rex
Jurassic Park
mosquitoes
malaria
blood
period (sorry!!)
(of course when i check that’s the last one…hibo…)
exclaimation
(of course when i check that’s the last one…hibo…)
exclamation
loud
@cassgirl says:
daughter
@coloraturajoy says:
mother
[and yay @ngie for the penzance quote!!! i was IN that show in college. p.s. it's actually an operetta, if you care, not a musical. lovely times.]
@coloraturajoy says:
mother
[and yay @ngie for the penzance quote!!! i was IN that show in college. p.s. it's actually an operetta, if you care, not a musical. lovely times.]
me
you
@cassgirl says:
empowered
women
friends. :D
@atangie says:
[Joy Renee - Oh I bet that was a ton of fun! I think I knew that it was an operetta (all singing - no talking) instead of a musical; thanks for the technical term. :-) ]
family
friends
AB I still want that milktart recipe!!
the one with all the kisses
you kissing your friends?????
anyway my follow up word will be
french
aka french kissing , kising like french with tongue … enough explanation to the english readers?
@cassgirl says:
fries
(plenty of explanation, thanks, AB!)
mustard
ketchup
(kissing like french with tongue makes me think of a lizzard. everytime. ew.)
Burger
(well, except when I’m doing it, then I don’t think of a lizzard. Then I think of something else. Definately not a lizzard. nevermind)
@cassgirl says:
(what smut on the Lord’s day … geesh!!)
(I love tongue flapping that’s what Iceman calls it)
AW Rootbeer
Willow Springs
(brandy and heidi — you two made my eyes get huge)
jesus would have done it if he wasnt a priest..monk .. what ever … we only need to rest on the seventh day and tongue flapping doesnt take a lot .. i do that resting..
skinny dipping
chunky dunking
biscotie
rusk (SA version of a biscotti)
buttermilk
@cassgirl says:
Hahahahaahaha!!!
@cassgirl says:
pancakes
crepes
great mornings
@cassgirl says:
hiding spots
hide-n-seek
@cassgirl says:
an old oak tree
tree house
kids
no thank you
(^that^ made me laugh!!)
@cassgirl says:
(y not.. they are wonderful)
laughter
flaughter
they are more work it seems like than reward.. from an investment point of view.
but then look at me , what a return of years of hard work , prayer , money , stress , prayer, stress, prayer . money and so on
openmouthsergery
(babe—YOU were a great return! i’m glad your mama invested… but let’s not think about her making that investment, cause… heebiejeebies!)
cheech and chong
cheese and wine
yes she invested alright
today (we had cheese and wine today!)
training
you traqined me today how to sign in
@cassgirl says:
((how sweet, you sound like newlyweds))
((can you give me a lesson?? on cheese and wine and spark??))
hard work
ab needs a PICTURE picture. Not a coffee cup.
I had to read Jake the whole lizzard tongue flapping kids no thanks jesus the monk comments. I was laughing oh soooo hard. hahaha!!!!
training?
BRA
hard work?
mom
((where did all the peeeeps go?))
sorry
always using that word in conversations with them
with moms?
sorry?
LAAAAME (that’s my word)
@atangie says:
DUUUUUDE
(from the same era as ‘lame’)
(Hi everybodeeee) :-)
[brandy --- "I had to read Jake the whole lizzard tongue flapping kids no thanks jesus the monk comments." that made me laugh out loud!!]
@cassgirl says:
If this is lame….
people
(yeah, he didn’t get it. go figure! haha!)
Wayne’s World! Wayne’s World! Party time! Excellent! (in response to duuuuude)
@cassgirl says:
((wow 3 women at a time))
Dude??
Where’s my car
(a movie)
church people
shibby (said in dude where’s my car)
oh shoot…church people….
ummm….
BORING (at least they are here!)
ann of green gables
@atangie says:
carrots
*SHOCK*
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
red head
gilbert blythe (be still my heart)
HAHAHA!!
pig tail braids
@atangie says:
bug eyed guy
(AB — i can’t believe you thought of “anne of green gables” — where do you come up with this stuff?!?! and come on! i love a little “anne” every now and then!)
little girl
(I own all three!)
little boy
[me, too, brandy!]
anti-blogger
@atangie says:
(I own all three as well)
nino
i love ann to once in a blue moon. its about time for it again. ok i cant comment anymore, my internet is to slow right now. and
I am still craving MILKTART!!!
Alece get me a recipe!
what the honk is a milktart?!?!
nino?
El Nino :lol:
gustav
@atangie says:
La nina
DUN DUN DUN!!!
New Orleans
DUN DUN DUN:
bedtime!
@atangie says:
jambalaya
rice and beans!
what the heck does little man have to do with the anti– nothing is small or little NOTHING
@atangie says:
puke
i have a friend that just moved there. what were they thinking???
ab: oh.my.gosh.
puke? Umm……
GROSS
milktart — faiths code name for lizzard
AB – yes, dear.
@ngie – does not liking rice & beans pose a challenge living in a hispanic country??!!
[and apparently i've got the recipe for some AWESOME milktart!!!]
what????
oh i just got that. Nope I got me some “lizard” already today! i’m good in that department!
nice
@ngie doesn’t like rice and beans?!?! oh dear. oh. dear.
for some reason when I read milktart I think milkfart. I don’t know why. And it’s gross.
working from GROSS…
net
dang a wet one
Alece will you send it to me sometime? For the real milktart food, not AB’s version of what I think it is! hehe
[faith - i'll try to get you one... i hate milktart and have never even made one!]
@atangie says:
g&g – beans are not a big thing in this country and actually potatoes are a bigger deal than rice. When we were in Costa Rica for a month they served us beans and rice everyday for breakfast and p.b.&j. for lunch. I couldn’t figure out why I was puking every day until the last few days of the trip I found out I was pregnant with our for child. (totally off topic – but Charlene might remember that). So now beans and rice are just yucky to even think about.
did faith get mid day lizzard?! (why are we spelling it with two z’s tonight? Now I’m confused.)
Alece, we need to exchange recipes. Or not. You could just give me yours. Or whatever. I’m sure there’s no bitter in your milktart. HAHAHA!!
HAHAHAHA!! FILKFART!!! is cracking me up!!!
@atangie says:
(edit: first not for)
(dang a wet one– hahahahahahahaha!!!*snort*)
faith
http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/South-African-Melktert-Milk-Tart/Detail.aspx
try that
yup I sure did! yesterday too. (oh Dan will kill me for telling, he’s so modest!)
Okay Faith just took milkfart to filkfart and I can’t stop laughing. *blush*
dude no lizard around the food .. gross
[angie -- wow. craziness. and i really don't like beans, so... blech for me too!]
@Faith: my oh my what a wonderful day. Or days. haha!
go dan go
AB awesome! I will have to make it this week! I am going to crave it till i eat it! Thanks!
milktert is worse than milktart. just sayin’. I live with boys. My mind goes there. *sigh*
And it looks gross. Like custard. Which I can’t eat. *blech*
what the tart or the lizard
HAHAHA!! Well it’s not like this every day! oh and AB MY kid happens to be a blast of fun! I will let you know if it changes though
brandy — never judge a tart by the looks
judge away, brandy. i’m not a fan of the tart.
where ARE we????!!!
lizard tart
@atangie says:
all over the place :-)
I know a tart when I see one. She is usually dressed like one.
I will try your milktart and let Jake test it. He loves a good tart.
Of the food variety.
is any of your husbands watching nascar right now?
where are we? At the g&g where it’s always hoppin’.
Did I just come out of the 50′s?!
NO. A big NEGATORY on that one AB. ;-)
He’s watching HGTV “My first place” HAHA!!
mmm like red high heels?
@atangie says:
My husband is watching season 2 of Prison Break on line… from some asian website
its like a custard with a soft crust, right? I haven’t had one in forever!
dude i watched the first two seasons of frasier like that when we got here to aleces moms house .. i love those asians
red heels?! hahah!
No, tarts who wear red heels have class. HIGH class. And tarts who give red heels as gifts are tarts for life. HA! HA! HA! HA!!!!
Prison Break starts this week! New season! Woohoo! yummm.
I did NOT say yum.
mine is watching sports page on chicago sports
asians?!
yes a little bit of mushy and a little bit of soft makes for a great tart
@atangie says:
We’ve done ‘Hero’, ‘Lost’, and a few movies that way. i love the asians too.
I have the mushy and soft down. LOL! haha!
thats funny all the hubbies are watching tv!!!
I love Lost. Lost is amazing. I’m super excited about this new season!
i love mushy in red heals .. what a gift
asians bootleg the crap out of everything and so you can go watch stuff on this site that you cant read or understand a thing.. awesome
oh wait, he was NOT watching “My first place.” He was watching “Property Virgins.” Great show.
Faith, I’m in front of the tv as well. On the couch.
i watched 4 seasons of lost in like 3 weeks on abc.com! they have it streaming!
@atangie says:
There are dozens of sites like that.
I love watching tv online. anytime. anywhere. no commercials!
@atangie says:
abc.com is blocked down here…
it’s like i bloged about the other day! i guess we all spend our nights like this!
abc.com blocked? shame. (alece you have rubbed off on me. first time using shame. haha)
brandy he is watching that with the boys… what kind of education are you guys doing over there.. with the lizards and tarts and virgins
we’re old milkfarts I guess.
no no ab, now the boys are playing playdoh. It’s like party central for them tonight. Late naps will do that. ;-)
i love saying shame! thats and “fraut” I don’t think thats how you spell it, but for when things like milk go bad, they go fraut.
and icecream
I have NEVER heard of fraut! haha!
oh man your boys are still up!!?? My husband wants to know what kind of a husband watches hgtv!! sorry
ab, now he’s watching something assnasty with a guys arm…skin peeled back all the way to reveal all his muscle under his arm….oh my gosh it’s SICK. SICK!
wow….. the comments are getting interesting on here….. and somewhat confusing to follow….
now that sounds more like a mans show! haha
ASSNASTY ????
PLEASE KEEP IT FAMILY FRIENDLY ….
Jake and I LOVE HGTV…. like “House Hunters” “Propert Virgins” “My First Place” love it. He’s good like that. ;-) haha!!
My boys are ONLY still up b/c I put them down for a LATE LATE nap and then they got to watch a movie with daddy, then have ice cream, and now I’mletting them do play doh and then it’s bed. ;-)
OR IS THAT THE WORD WE NEED TO PLAY???
i thought that was funny, for a girl who hates the f bomb!
I meant one S I swear! :(
@atangie says:
yep – swearing – that is the issue :-)
that is what she said
shame dude you are not ever going to live that down just so you know
one S and a * haha! My mind got carried away. Does no one else say that? hmmm. Yes Faith, I hate the F*bomb, but I must confess, I…. (shh, come close)… slip and swear on occasion. *SHOCK*
theres that “shame” again
ok i also like the house thing .. i think it is because i like it when people take crapp and turn it into something nice
faith what do you guys watch ? and what does dan do for a living?
i have a potty mouth! Brandy. When you were talking about the f bomb the other night, Dan was swearing at the ball game he was watching. it was a little funny!
i love jesus but cuss a little
and then do the lizzard dance
Brandy – if it makes you feel better, I have at least heard that word before… of course, where I work, I think [on a bad day] I’ve heard about every word in the book…
Didn’t Alece post something a while back about a lady that said, “I love Jesus, but I drink a little?”
@atangie says:
AHHHH – you put a lizzard!!! :-)
lizard dance??
Dan watches sports a lot and the office is one of his fav shows
he fixes industrial compactors and cardboard balers. like at walmarts and big company’s!
its his dads business but he mostly runs it
Ha ha…. awesome pic, anti-blogger
ok true story :::
i preached once at a big event or church .. can’t remember but i preached about us livng like the son who left home and so now he has nothing and so on…i then went on to get everybody like fired up like u preachers do and then shouted …. “it is time to get out of the pig sty!”
but i said “pigsh!t”
no joke i felt like pig sty stuff…
never preached that again
I love Jesus.
I like to drink.
My favorite swear word is the S word. It’s a family trait that I swear is genetic.
And I don’t always act like a good Christian. Especially when I’m mad and bitter. LOL!
off to put bad boys to bed now. ;-)
@cassgirl says:
I swear…. sometimes
Today, actually I did it right in front of my pastor’s wife, she looked at me and I laughed.
((blushed))
oh Brandy, me too, me too.
oh except for drink, im not at all into that right now.
@atangie says:
Wow AB…
Wow Brandy…
Wow Heidi…
Why do I feel the sudden need to confess something to Priest G&G?
@cassgirl says:
Let me do the blessing..
Okay go for it !!
we just heard in church today that confessing that you have a weakness is good, that way God can use that weakness for His glory to help others.
[can i just say that moments like this make my heart swell? i LOVE my blog family!]
where is Alece gone too?
@atangie says:
Um… ok… tonight at church we did a round table style discussion about judging others and I was totally judging some of our church members as we were talking.
@atangie says:
Um… ok… tonight at church we did a round table style discussion about judging others and I was totally judging in my mind some of our church members as we were talking.
oh there you are! we love you too! now Dan is watching Dane Cook. hes funny
“Why do I feel the sudden need to confess something to Priest G&G?”
That made me laugh. Thank you, @ngie.
and they keep BLEEPING him
heidi i am watching nascar running in souther california and you guys had an amazing sunset..
in case you guys missed niel’s OOPS story…
http://gritandglory.com/2008/08/30/jabberwacky-beautiful/#comment-11044
@cassgirl says:
I just sat down to an amazing plate of tacos too!!!
Come on @ngie.. spill it sister
@atangie says:
Happy to oblige Jen. :-)
angie — alece watches judging amy a lot and then she plays her in our house….
judging my actions and sentencing me to lizard time and so on
@atangie says:
Look up at the comment at 10:54 Heidi…
a nachos now we are talking
@atangie says:
I have never seen that show, I will have to check it out so that I can mimic her too.
Alece sound like a tough sentencer! ;-)
i almost got nachos at a fair tonight but then remembered IM ON A DIET!!
but i did manage to get elephant ears in there, go weight watchers!
@atangie says:
So do I have your blessing Heidi? :-)
@cassgirl says:
@ngie, we have all done that. Do you think they were judging you??
@cassgirl says:
tacos with mango salsa, totally outrule nachos!!!
is lizard sentencing a good thing?
@atangie says:
That is what I was judging them for – such irony! But, hey, you asked. Such a vicious cycle…
@cassgirl says:
Unfortunately it gets worst when you move up in the ladder too.
now dan is watching “worlds heaviest man” im getting grossed out, I am judging him! ooops sorry! Im a sinner!
@atangie says:
There has been some not-so-nice talk floating around – - – so, yes, I know that they were judging…. but that doesn’t give me the right to stoop to their level.
1225 lbs!! thats 1100 more than me!!! give or take a few!!
Niel said pigsh!t.
Don’t we all judge to some degree? My WORST worst worst is that I judge b/c I *think* “they” are judging me. “They” being anyone I feel nervous around or intimidated by. It sucks. And I rarely have such low self confidence, unless it’s someone I really want to be friends with. y/k? I hate being human. Sometimes.
@cassgirl says:
Very true… But I think it’s human nature…. I’m not giving permission, but I think like cussing it’s human nature. It’s how we control it.
do you think??
Faith you only weigh 125lbs?
I hate you.
In an “I like you” sort of way. heehee
Brandy are your boys down now?
this is pretty interesting, but unfortunately the melatonin has kicked in (or maybe it’s a good thing depending on your point of view).
Either way… Good night.
Yes Haydee. I agree.
I always worry about what others’ perception of me is. I hate that. It annoys me.
@atangie says:
Good night Jen.
Faith dear, yes they are down. And they went with a fight. I hate bedtime. That’s why Jake normally does it. I did it though since the “staying up late” was my idea. :/
no 129!! so dont hate me! i’m on a diet so it’s not like im a skinny bitch (ooops) who is just skinny by nature, I hate them! (no not really!)
@cassgirl says:
one of my legs weighs 125
@atangie says:
My deal is…
why do I put so much weight in the words of critics?
and yet when I receive compliments I try to play them down?
AAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! I LITERALLY just gasped and then burst out laughing. OH MY GOSH!! HAHAHAHA!!!!
Heidi i think you are so right!
@ngie, that is something I think about alll the time.
For instance, Jake is always always telling me I look (insert compliment here) and I always always roll my eyes and even sometimes get mad. Why? Why do I do that?
And the words of critics…. are sometimes my own words coming from someone else. It’s like they’ve said what I already think about myself. ugh.
Angie I think you are such a great woman for recognizing your fault. and your point is a good one. when you get a compliment keep it in your thoughts for a while!
@cassgirl says:
WHoa….
I dunno… I have a real problem with compliments, I become sarcastic to shy away from them.
But with criticism I hide in a corner
Faith, after three kids I will never weigh 129! ha!!
@atangie says:
Thank you Faith…
criticism makes me lash out. it’s not nice.
me too. But later when im alone I feel good about the compliment and savor it. i think it might have to do with how we are raised. did your parents give compliments to you?
@atangie says:
I lash out in my mind as a delayed reaction.
@atangie says:
parents lavished me with compliments…
@cassgirl says:
I don’t lash until I’ve had enough
wel i though i would never weigh this little again! it was work but now that i have lost it, it seems easy to keep off with the guide lines from weight watchers. I am so happy i did it too! (and so is dan, hehe)
all the time.
but when Jake does it, I haven’t showered all day, I have no makeup on, I’m wearing cut off sweats and a t-shirt that has food or paint or spit on it, and I’m gross. So I never believe him and I think he’s lying. But when *I* feel good about how I look, I love his compliments. *shrug*
I lash when I feel attacked. I only feel attacked when it’s something near and dear to me…. like criticism of how I parent, what kind of wife I am, what kind of homemaker I am…..basically all things I am not confident about already.
@atangie says:
Good point Brandy about being in agreement about the compliments when you are feeling good about yourself
ME TOO Brandy!! Dan does the same thin and I finally yelled at him to quit calling me sexy when im not! HAHA what horrible husband’s we have!
I feel like he’s lying when I KNOW I look bad and he compliments me. Lying or asking for something. HA!!
It annoys me.
@atangie says:
Hey – Brandy – did you get your prize yet?
ya i get the asking thing, hehe and thats when your not in the mood, when your all dirty from the day. Right?
Yes @angie I did! I posted about it, but I think ALece is going to post about it too. ;-)
Faith, absofreakinlutely right!
@atangie says:
yeah!
dude and then miss heidi over here loathe certain things on her new blog and i tell you judging is the name of her game… you guys should check it out..
giving grace and permission and then judging those who forgot to restock the paper at the toilet is a bit ….what can i say … rough…
anyway i think judging stuff isnt that bad .. judging people is healthy sometimes…
it is when we stop loving them because of the judgement …therefore just to be clear … even though i judge you guys for blogging … i love you all like my man jesus….
angie, you hit it on the head with your comment:
“why do I put so much weight in the words of critics? and yet when I receive compliments I try to play them down?”
that’s me, too.
ok dan needs the computer now and I am starving. Love to you all! It’s been great chatting again! night
where did AB and Alece go?
Lizardlyhuggaboochin I’m sure. ;-)
oh. there they are. HAHA!!
Night Faith!! Great night!
@atangie says:
AB
like the the eight pound six ounce baby Jesus? :-)
And that was the main point of the discussion: when is it ok / necessary to judge and when is it unacceptable.
@atangie says:
Night Faith. :-)
eesh.
I’d like to hear someone’s answer to that. My own answer wouldn’t make sense outside of my head!
@atangie says:
“Lizardlyhuggaboochin” HA! :-)
I was lookin for a third word to throw in there but I couldn’t think of one. ;-)
@cassgirl says:
@ngie, when you NEED A HEALTHY role model to look up too or when you judge your son’s choice of a girlfriend .
@atangie says:
answer to what?
just so you ladies know i think it is ok for men to say nice things to their ladies when they dont look like they just came from their anniversery dinner and so on.. sometimes we even like you in those day s you dont feel we should and then we still want to compliment you … tell you you are beautifull and so on…never understood the whole thing anyway ….woman says you should talk and tell them how nice they look and so on and that puts them in the mood and then like now they say why do thye say stuff just to get us in the mood?????how else do we get you in the moo for lizardboochin
i love you, AB!
Lizardlyhuggaboochinassnasty
3rd word for you
AB: here’s the thing…. I’m gross. I haven’t showered all day. I’m still in my jams. I’ve been SICK sick allll weekend. I don’t even look like myself. And yet he STILL says “honey you’re hot!” when clearly I’m not. CLEARLY. It feels patronizing.
What would get me in “the mood” on days like that would be if he said “go take a hot bath, I’ve got dinner cleanup and bedtime” or “why don’t you lock yourself in your room for a while and do whatever you want” or “is there anything you want me to do?”
Yes. THOSE things would get me in the mood for lizardboochin.
@atangie says:
Yes, Heidi, so true
assnastilylizardlyhuggaboochin. haha!!
huggalizardboochassnastilin.
oh dear.
oh dear is right.
cant wait to play scrabble with some pastors
HAHAHA!!!
Hey AB, we can all see your lizard.
(alece, got your comment. OH. MY.)
@cassgirl says:
It’s not all about words AB, it’s about action, I would love to hear that I was beautiful after a long hot day from work in my car. But it doesn’t always happen from my husban…
But you know what EVERYDAY my son comes running up too me and hugs my legs and thats all worth it.
ALthough I am a firm believer of Words, my son’s actions speak louder
@atangie says:
It has been a good night on the G&G here. :-)
Alece – you have been a lovely hostess; as usual.
I am going to sleep. Good night dears. :-)
‘night, angie!
ok im back
and i do think we are to hard on our men. they never know what to do with us!
Haydee….Once Aidan told me I looked like a butterfly when I tried a dress on at the store. I bought the dress. I don’t know where I’ll wear it. But I know he thinks I look like a butterfly in it. :D
ok makes sense on the can i help thing and please go lock your self in a room or please go take a shower ….
but still we are a little slow in saying or asking the right thing and so we are also people of habbit .. meaning if it worked last time why not this time … so when it worked last time to give flowers and then get the lizardboochinass then guess what we as men think it will always work … i am personally always a bit in the darkness on what is really the signs of good times…. i understand that it takes more than the same thing but why cant we just ask .. hey what do you need me to do or say so you can be in the mood ???
not judging .. just saying and asking
night @ngie!
@cassgirl says:
I love their innocent love
heidi .. i dont think me running up to alece and grabing her leg is going to work for me….
ab that is funny! i think if you put it that blunt , you might never get layed!
Oh AB I would love to answer this:
hey what do you need me to do or say so you can be in the mood ???
Why do you (men in general) ONLY want to say/do these things in order to get us (wives) in the mood? Why can’t it be just to make us feel good about ourselves? or to give us a break? or to show us that you care about our mental well being?
I think what IRKS me the most is it (it being anything nice or complimentary) only gets said/done in order to receive something.
follow?
Faith you make me BLURT with laughter all the time. oh my gosh! hahahahaha!!!!!!
layed?
has AB never heard the term “get layed?”
*SHOCK*
oh i bet he is nice because he loves you too, but they just always want sex too
YES YES YES! that’s what i was going to say, brandy. i want my AB to tell me beautiful, wonderful, encouraging, TRUE things just because i deserve them. if and when i do.
that should be totally separate than trying to get me in the mood.
and i don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a conversation with your spouse about what helps them get in the mood.
while you ponder my question AB, I’m putting the Big O to bed.
be back!
thats blunt talk for huggabuching
No there’s nothing wrong with the conversation, but when we’ve had said conversation a MILLION times and it still doesn’t happen, reverting to the old lazy ways isn’t gettin ya anywhere either.
okay, off to put Mr O in bed. I swear.
LULABOOBIE!!!
men are just a little slow, brandy!
or at least that the lie i tell myself sometimes to keep from going crazy! “he can’t help it, hes slow!” or something like that
@cassgirl says:
AB — you might get lmore if you do. just sayin
I think words are can be deeper when theres no tangible want from it.
there’s six people on here and im chatting with myself!
STOP JUDGING ME.. in the voice of raymond barone
ok yes i agree we … the dence generation of men should maybe think of it more often to be in the compliment department without making it work for us department but i am just wondering how it will look if the roles are reverged ..
i am wondering what the ladies are doing the whole time to make us sing hallelujah
@cassgirl says:
AB–
Some of the worst complimenters in the world are WOMEN!!!
i dont know, my husband is always nice and overly good to me and he isn’t getting much lately. with this weekend as the exception. I have been a bit depressed and no words or actions were doing anything for me! I swear sometimes it’s just like that.
@cassgirl says:
Especially towards other woman…
oh you guys like RAY? hes good
i dont get it. we dont have to say anything. we just take things off. right?
we just take things off right? HAHAHAHAHA!!! Yes Faith, that is all. Or even the MENTION of taking something off. HAHAHA!!!!
AB: I don’t understand your question. If I give Jake a compliment it’s because I mean it. Not to get something in return. Sometimes though, even when I give him a compliment, it turns into him thinking *I’m* wanting something. So both ways, it always turns into SEX. Always.
well most amazing beautifull gorgeaous blogger babe…i do agree
we should be in the place where i give you the comment of beauty and so on because you deserve it and because i love you … not because i need you to do something for me or for you to hug the boochin … i totally agree …
i think we just get use to one another and then even though i think you are beautifull and gorgeous i dont think of telling you it all the time…
dont know why we do it .. is it maybe because then that just becomes like a habbit .. like we tell people about amazing restaurant we eat at but not when we drove by mcdonalds and grabbed a burger because we do it so often … just a thought but i do agree .. men love it when you believe in us and are proud of us and tell us that .. we can move the world for you then …
i guess it is the same way for you when we just complement you..
@cassgirl says:
Brandy, thank for reading my brain..
and p.s. Talk is CHEAP. I like actions. And not “humping my leg” actions. ;-) haha!
And yes, he’s tried that action. oh has he tried. HAHAHAHAHA!!!
@cassgirl says:
thanks- oopsies
niel… thank you. i love you.
ya men like words too i guess
AB: would men rather us fake respect or REALLY respect? Or does it matter? And if there isn’t much to really respect what then? And what deserves respect?
I’ve always wanted to ask a guy that stuff. Seriously.
I love what AB said to DSA. ;-)
p.s. notes and emails are not the same as saying something. Those are different altogether. I’d rather get a great email or note than a comment at home. Seriously.
Brandy are you talking hypothetical or is your husband not deserving of respect?
i hope thats not to personal
ok dude slow down on the questions ..i will try my best to answer bu twe will see what comes out of the head of the anti…
faith do you still think if you walked naked all the time he would get excited ? like you want the praise all the time?
ok explain leg humping????? maybe something that will work for me…
i am going to think a bit and then return
well I think it has more to do with the moods we are in. we like compliments when we are in good moods and they like naked when they are in good moods! if we are not in good moods then nothing is going to happen.
Faith, I’m just wondering what IS deserving of respect. Unconditional love I understand. Unconditional respect I don’t understand.
I agree about the moods. And the poor men have to learn to decipher the moods. ;-)
the leg humping was a joke AB.;-)
But Jake does it to me. As a joke. ;-)
no not unconditional respect at all! thats just bad! but like neil said, like the hard work they do to provide is deserving of respect and i guess we should say it more. I try to remember to do that but i honestly forget to. i guess if we look for the respectful things and point them out it is uplifting to them.
“Unconditional respect I don’t understand. ”
mmmm… that is so good friend.
it just seems like us wives are always picking on the bad stuff in them. I do it all the time and i wish i didnt. i wish i remembered to check myself when I am doing it and change waht i am saying or take it back. thats just what i think about a lot of girls i know.
my husband is a really great guy in every way but i somehow always pick on the little bit of bad in him. that cant be encouraging to him at all! he might start to think “if she is going to pick on me anyways, why even try” i would hate that.
In a marriage class AND in a christian marriage BOOK it said that women want unconditional love (agreed) and men want unconditional respect. I can’t get on board with that. Just can’t.
And I agree Faith. They DO deserve respect for providing. 100% agree. Jake and I were just talking about his “providing” last night and how I think he does a great job of that. He is very hard on himself in that department, but he does a great job of that.
well this is what i think.
no one wants fake.. i hate it when people and even alece fake respect the thing i did or are doing .. i think we all want to feel like we are the one our wifes look upto …example… there was this time i were in the states and alece had to run things all by herself in south africa.. staff , finances , decisions and all of that. on my return the best thing she said was not that i look handsome or that i lost weight or that i am sexy or anything else .. the thing that made me feel loved the most was when she said i dont know how you do it ,, how you handle all of these stresful things and still have a good attitude and smile and so on.. i can still remember that clearly… now i am sure she has told me many times she loves me and i am sexy and so on but this stands out to me where i knew she loved and respected me … no fake , no your the man, no you are my hero…. just simple truth..
now it doesnt need to be uge for us men to feel like that but when i hear how great so and so husband is and so an so just did this for his wife and so on i feel small and when we as men feel small we get dumber and dumber…
we have this pride thing and as long as he thinks you are still amazed by him and he still gives you the goosebumps because of who he is i think things will change the way we do things… we excirsise our musles not to impres the ladies but actually we do it because we want to impress the guys with the ladies.. we are conserned if have the biggest thing not because of the fact that it might give our wifes more pleasure but just because we are scared the guy nextdoor might have a bigger one and our wifes might want that…
find those little things that you are proud of us for and make it known and we will rise to the occation..
faith — what you said was so true: “i guess if we look for the respectful things and point them out it is uplifting to them.” i have been working hard at doing that more and know i need to even more and more and more. my husband does so much hard work and does many things i’m proud of, and i need to let him know each time. because he doesn’t know i feel that way if i don’t tell him.
so never fake it , it make s us feel so much smaller inside and no one want to be the small man in the neighbourhood
the only thing I “nit pick” are the character issues. And I think I’m super sensitive to that b/c I had a sh!tty father and we have boys and it concerns me. I admittedly put a lot of my “dad” issues on Jake and I struggle with that on a daily basis. But I am always worried about character influences when it comes to the boys.
Sometimes I feel like I really am raising four boys, and not three. *sigh*
dan just said he does not agree that i should respect him unconditionally . but we should love each other unconditionally. THOSE CRAZY CHRISTIANS! hehe
wow, babe. i’m glad you remembered that and that it was so big for your heart to hear. i’m sorry it was so long ago, too… i’m committed to being more vocal about things like that.
wow AB I got a lot out of your comment. I agree. I do. There is a lot to chew on there.
I have to say, when I read about what Alece said to you I said in my head “YES!! That is exactly what I want!!” HAHA!! And I’m not a dude.
@cassgirl says:
wow marriage 101
good point ab! and Brandy i know what you mean. I have mom issues and no matter how much i try to not let them influence me its in my nature. so i know what you mean. my mom always picks on my dad and it makes me sad when i hear her do it. but when we get home i catch myself picking on dan. when i realize it i stop, but i should apologize for my wrong too.
@cassgirl says:
I need to work on cleaning out my tupperware closet.. I need to laugh again, praise again, and uplift again..
Heavy stuff… but good stuff.
ya its great getting impute from other married people and knowing that we all struggle with the same stuff.
tupperware closets are evil. evil.
I would love to be care free again. But I think that went out the window when I was 15. HA!
I love that I got to ask AB that question b/c sometimes it’s good to ask a guy those questions who isn’t going to get mad when you do. y/k?
So thanks AB! ;-)
well once again its been great but dan is calling me to bed. so good night to all!
Faith, my favorite thing about bloggers is learning all of our faults. Not to judge, but because then I know I am in good company. ;-) heehee
Night Faith!!
He calls you to bed! That is sweet. :D
ok so it comes back to this thing alece and myself talked about . one of our friends talks to their kids openly about stuff and so they are creating this culture to always talk openly about stuff.
i think we know where we screw up as guys and so i think if we are praised and respected in the little good we do we by ourselfs and by our very competative nature wants to fix those bigger things inside ourselfs.. you dont even need to point it out..
so i want to be the best husband al around and i want to have alece tell you girls about what a great guy i am and i want to be better then any of your husbands because of the nature inside me … but yet i fail to always show and improve because there is times where i feel i cant live up to the little expectations now how will i live up to the big stuff…if i dont have your respect now on even small things how can i have it on the big and then i am on the defence and i am not advancing in becoming the worlds best husband…
alece knows that i had a problem with her blogging as i felt it were taking more time than the time she spend with me .. i felt she rather wants to spend time with you guys blogging then hanging out with me.. but i know this is important to her and so when i see and felt respected by her i got involved a little and so here i am typing with my 2 fingers not because i like it but because she loves it ,,,and there fore i feel i can do it with her … will i ever blog no .. and maybe this will become less when we are back in south africa and my schedule picks up but i can atleast every now and then leave a comment and so on..i once were threatened by you guys and felt like the small man but now because of the fact that she respected some of my decisions i dont feel like that..i am now the big man because none of your husbands are the anti-blogger..
ya dan said i should say goodnight to my “fake” friends! how wrong is he!?
@cassgirl says:
my husband is already snoring!!
Faith, he is SO wrong. That is exactly what Jake calls you guys too. Fake friends. Shame. Darn shame!
AB: I so loved everything you said and it actually gave me a lot to think on. Wow. A lot. I feel like I want to copy your entire comment and save it to read later when I need it. Seriously.
Jake is watching Discovery channel and CNBC and giving me a running commentary. Haha!!
AB, not that I don’t need it now. Just to be clear. ;-)
okay kids. I need to go to bed. I’m super tired. And gross. I need a shower. ;-)
Love you guys. And AB, I like when you get in the mix!
night all!
Alece, you have email. I “expounded” ;-)
love you!
this was so good for me. AB, i love you even more now — i just told you that and now i’m typing it! :-) thank you for sharing YOU with my friends tonight.
brandy — enjoy that shower. (you can get all that assnastiness off you) love you, friend!
@cassgirl says:
That was a good Hallmark ending!!
well we as guys that dont write and blog will in some sort of way always think sof this as not real friends… to us a real friend is way more than someone we email but i think i am starting to understand a little of how youguys are real friends to alece and how she see and careand love each one of you for who you are…
it is hard for us to be friends without shaking the hand i guess
i have a friend that is moving out to come live with us.. we never email . never call . but yet after not seeing him for over a year or so i know that when they land we will pick up right where we left off as if he never left.
somehow you ladies can do that by emailing .
i cant , have no idea what to email him
but we wil have major adventures when he gets there…
hot baby mama just love being your lizzard
and maybe you should learn from cereal lady that taking showers is a good thing…….
my man niel and i just had a great talk about all this love and respect stuff. so good for me to hear.
hubs, thank you, thank you, for saying all you did — on here and to me. i love you so much.
@cassgirl says:
See Anti.. there’s a book that I teach out of called the fve love languages, We are all different, Just because Alece and I are women doesn’t mean we share the same love language. But guys are totally different they cannot see always the connection on paper of computer screen, because honestly their trust is alot lower. We (women) take words and make realtionships out of them.
indeed!
back to jabberwackying
shower
loofa
@cassgirl says:
irish spring
happiness
@cassgirl says:
(( in the correct time zone now :)))
warm snickerdoodles
i have no idea what asnicker doodle is
@cassgirl says:
Its a sugar cookie dipped in cinnamon
yummy
me going to sleep now
labradoodles
( Challenge to heidi – loofah – irish spring???)
and if Alece’s ‘Yummy’ was part of Jabber-wacky and not just a reflex to: sugar cookie dipped in cinnamon then scratch labradoodle (labrador /poodle X-breed) and lets go with:
Sweet
sugar
spice
[and mr. love --- irish spring is a brand of soap here in the usa]
everything nice (supposedly like little girls)
@cassgirl says:
pigtails
heidi
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should make for a fun start next time!