Men--- Can I talk to you for a minute? I'll be quick, I promise.
The way you love your wife shows her the way Christ loves her.
Too much pressure for a fallen man?! I didn't say it. God did. "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the Church..."
Your wife will believe and experience Christ's love for her to the degree that she believes and experiences your love for her. God can miraculously work in anyone's heart and life, and women with very ungodly husbands can certainly still experience intimacy with Christ. But God puts the responsibility on you to show your wife how much He loves her.
Help your wife believe that Christ values, treasures, and adores her today.