Comments on: four-minute friday: self-awareness

By: your Q’s, my A’s: favorites : Grit and Glory

your Q’s, my A’s: favorites : Grit and Glory — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 05:37:30 +0000

[...] were a ton of favorite questions. I thought you knew I’m no good at favorites! Maybe that’s why you asked them. [...]

By: four-minute friday: randoms : Grit and Glory

four-minute friday: randoms : Grit and Glory — Fri, 21 May 2010 08:38:08 +0000

[...] me, you know I’m not good with off-the-cuff answers. I think it’s because of the whole favorites thing… And the fuzzy brain [...]

By: alece

alece — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 20:09:02 +0000

wow. i’ve never thought through all that before, but you described my own experiences exactly. (even though there are only 3 of us!)

so interesting… hmmmm….

By: alece

alece — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 20:07:02 +0000

i agree! i am so much more able to understand healthy by learning to recognize the dysfunction of my family and own tendencies…

By: alece

alece — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 20:05:48 +0000

i love knowing you kept coming back and catching up on the comments. SO my favorite part of the Grit.

i so appreciated hearing that bit of your own journey. thank you for the reminder to hold onto the small choices i make along the way. “they are yours to hold onto”. so, so good for me to hear.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 18:10:25 +0000

I get what you mean about being aware of what is not normal and at times really just wanting to not know.

My counselor and a good friend have both told me that there is some serious dysfunction in my family. The deal is my family just wants to look normal and will do about anything to keep up that impression. The more I notice the distructive thought patterns and behaviors myself, the more I find myself going back and forth between just wanting to be normal and understanding it is not healthy and I have the power to break some destructive cycles.

By: Crystal Offhaus

Crystal Offhaus — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 06:32:17 +0000

I keep coming back to this post when I have a free moment, and reading the comments. It suddenly occurred to me why. It’s because the feelings are so familiar. There was at one point after my divorce that I had to take a stand for my preferences in the ‘little things’ of life, but I didn’t realize the impact at the time. Like making or not making my bed. I didn’t have to make the bed like he did, but how was I going to make it? Was I going to make?

It was such a small, almost unnecessary thing, but so stinkin’ helpful in the long run. I did not realize all this until a little over a year ago though. (That’s not being very self aware, is it?) HeeHee!

Rejoice in the seemingly ‘small’ decisions of choices you make along the way. They are yours to hold onto. The Lord is using them to build up to something BIG! You are one brave lady and I am always encouraged by what you write.

By: Laura Milton

Laura Milton — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 03:51:51 +0000

Because we have someone older always choosing for us or leading us to where, what we need to do. Then once the older siblings aren’t there the youngest are like “I wanta” “me,me,me”. Us middle kids, just well, get the “that what your sister wore”, “just eat this because your older and younger sibling has a preference” or just go with the flow cause it’s easiest. I truly love being a middle child. I feel like I don’t have many memories from my childhood though, because I didn’t have the opportunity to make an effort to define what I really liked, there were 7 kids in my family too, just all corralled into a pin together ;) OR it can just be us June babies ;) ha

By: alece

alece — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 03:39:23 +0000

i AM a middle child. i’m interested to hear why you think that’s related to this…

By: Laura Milton

Laura Milton — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 02:04:57 +0000

oh and LOVE breakfast burritos too