Comments on: denying myself

By: my deepest fear : Grit and Glory

my deepest fear : Grit and Glory — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 05:54:41 +0000

[...] indecisiveness. It explains my aversion to voice an opinion. It’s why I’m hesitant to assert myself. All of those things are (futile) attempts to keep from feeling like a [...]

By: Alece and Surreneder « Singing in the Shadow

Alece and Surreneder « Singing in the Shadow — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:39:30 +0000

[...] to some sin that God wants me to deal with, than to read and be convicted. Here is a quote from a recent post on [...]

By: annie

annie — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 18:04:45 +0000

SO good. Thanks for writing.

By: Stacey

Stacey — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 14:59:20 +0000

This has been me since I was little… I am always trying to make it right… Thank you friend.

By: Justin Davis

Justin Davis — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 13:17:58 +0000

Powerful post…as I read it I thought about how my wife Trisha could have written this post. It made me sad, thankful and angry all at the same time. Thank you for your transparency.

By: sheryl

sheryl — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 06:07:07 +0000

your real motivation hasn’t been to please Jesus, it’s been to please people.

those words have just pierced me. i realize that my motivation was self protection by pleasing people. therefore, it was still all about ME. dang, this is tough…but i am SO glad that our God loves us to the point of not wanting to leave us in that state.

loved your reply to “stranger”.

By: Amber

Amber — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 02:36:17 +0000

Loved it – am right there with you. Thanks for the honesty.

By: tam

tam — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:58:56 +0000

mmmm. i wonder how many, if being honest, could/should write this same post.

me, for one.

wow.

By: alece

alece — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:14:02 +0000

i agree with putting others before ourselves and being servants.

but while this doesn’t apply to everybody, for ME, i’ve taken that to an extreme. and, if i’m being most honest, my real motivation hasn’t been to please Jesus, it’s been to please people.

Jesus said to love our neighbors as we love ourselves, and my self-love has been sorely lacking. there’s a difference between serving others first and always putting my own needs last. (this old post might help as you wrestle: http://www.gritandglory.com/2009/01/29/i-am-not-third/)

for me, it comes down to boundaries. and i’ve lived boundary-less for a long time, which has resulted in me being a doormat. and THAT doesn’t honor God. it also doesn’t show that i treasure the me He made me to be.

keep wrestling, stranger. i’m on the mat right next to you.

By: coop

coop — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:06:26 +0000

i get stuck on this one. because Jesus did live a life of service. He gave Himself to the world. And He was afflicted and condemned. And although i’m not saying we’re Jesus-es, we are called to be Christ-like. Our first and foremost denial should definitely be for the Father. Without a doubt. But i don’t know where the line between that and denial of oneself for others is. So thank you for helping me wrestle, stranger.