Of course, all of this changed dramatically during my teenage years when I became a believer and started going to church: it got worse.

Still, I believe.

In my own life, I have seen that God has used my failures (NOT THAT THIS IS YOUR FAILURE…IT IS NOT!!!!) but God has used the hard times in my life, the situations i never thought I would be in, the situations that I used to look down on other people for…. as a way to humble me, to make me love more, to give me the ability to UNDERSTAND and be EMPATHETIC when other people are hurting. This, to me, is a great gift. It is, after all, what we are here for. Sometimes you just have to go through it to be able to understand it in someone else’s life.

Keep praising God, my friend. His promises are true. Not only will He bring you through this, He will make you more beautiful and blessed because of it. His plan is soooo much better than ours.

I know you know all of this. I love and appreciate all your honesty. Keep your head up and your hand in His.

HUGS!!!

until i became an adult and had friends who were living through it. Hearing the stories and the reasons it all was clear to me that sometimes it is going to happen and thats totally ok.

and then when my parents told us they were divorcing and the reasons i got it. I quit judging because it is not my place.

I so respect you for the healing that you are going through and the process you are going through. I am praying for you daily that all of the drama of a divorce would be lessened….that God would be with you. That He would carry you, comfort you and be your strength.

Love you girl.

My DH and I were having a conversation just the other day about how ‘we’ (meaning all people) do not understand what another person goes through, and how everyone needs forgiveness. This is the beauty of Christ. The sinner and the saint will both be in heaven – not because of anything we’ve done, but because we have accepted the love of Christ. Christ’s love washes over each of us, regardless of the miles on our shoes, without judgment.

I try my hardest to push judgment out of my mind, and having been a part of a divorced family, what I have learned over and over and over again, is that you simply cannot understand the fullness of someone’s experiences unless you have lived through every single day with them – and even then, your experience will be different because of your very individual ‘filters’. Having said all of that, I see no D anywhere close to you – I only see restoration, God’s love, and the fact that THERE IS NOW NO CONDEMNATION FOR THOSE OF US IN CHRIST JESUS!

And to reiterate:
1). Nothing is wrong with you – your husband left because he made his own decisions. Don’t let the LIES that are contained within this statement affect you!!!!!

2). You are not damaged goods – again, a lie from the pit of hell!

3). Tsk, tsk, tsk – let folks think what they may, you have no control over that. What you DO have control over is believing the living, breathing, word of God that will never fail.

It’s human to think these things – it is divine to ascribe yourself to the word of God, and divine to see yourself as GOD sees you, not how other people see you. We are all guilty of judging others, and really need to watch that – but you ARE NOT JUDGMENT! You are a child of the King of Kings, and the Lord of Lord’s – the MOST high….not the kinda high, but the MOST HIGH KING! Alece, HE has chosen you as His child. He has chosen YOU to serve Him. He has CHOSEN YOU, plain and simple!!!!!! That is amazing. Regardless of what you have been through, or what judgment you have passed on others in the past, you are still a child of the King. How glorious is that??? You are CHOSEN!