Comments on: i knew the whole time http://www.gritandglory.com/2009/10/22/i-knew-the-whole-time/ Fri, 30 Jul 2010 01:03:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: alece http://www.gritandglory.com/2009/10/22/i-knew-the-whole-time/#comment-27810 alece Mon, 22 Mar 2010 04:44:21 +0000 http://www.gritandglory.com/?p=5577#comment-27810 i'm overwhelmed by your heart for me. thank you. really. i’m overwhelmed by your heart for me. thank you. really.

]]> By: momlovesbeingathome http://www.gritandglory.com/2009/10/22/i-knew-the-whole-time/#comment-27765 momlovesbeingathome Fri, 19 Mar 2010 15:57:10 +0000 http://www.gritandglory.com/?p=5577#comment-27765 This the first time I've ever been to your blog - I already left the one comment but, wow! What a story! I'm already in tears for what you went through. There's really nothing to say except that I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I'm glad that you are working on yourself and finding healing in God after all of this. He alone is comfort and I'm glad you are seeing comfort in Him. I pray that you continue to heal and that you are able to be used as God wants to use you. God bless!! This the first time I’ve ever been to your blog – I already left the one comment but, wow! What a story! I’m already in tears for what you went through. There’s really nothing to say except that I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I’m glad that you are working on yourself and finding healing in God after all of this. He alone is comfort and I’m glad you are seeing comfort in Him. I pray that you continue to heal and that you are able to be used as God wants to use you. God bless!!

]]> By: thinking about NYE… : Grit and Glory http://www.gritandglory.com/2009/10/22/i-knew-the-whole-time/#comment-25085 thinking about NYE… : Grit and Glory Wed, 30 Dec 2009 08:28:39 +0000 http://www.gritandglory.com/?p=5577#comment-25085 [...] husband’s affair started six months before, and I’d reached my breaking point. His denial, lies, and painful guilt trips drove me deep into depression. And nobody had a clue what was going [...] [...] husband’s affair started six months before, and I’d reached my breaking point. His denial, lies, and painful guilt trips drove me deep into depression. And nobody had a clue what was going [...]

]]> By: more painful than adultery : Grit and Glory http://www.gritandglory.com/2009/10/22/i-knew-the-whole-time/#comment-24989 more painful than adultery : Grit and Glory Fri, 18 Dec 2009 05:04:06 +0000 http://www.gritandglory.com/?p=5577#comment-24989 [...] a year and a half, he lied every single day. Not only to me, but also to our team of staff and interns. When I think of the sheer magnitude of [...] [...] a year and a half, he lied every single day. Not only to me, but also to our team of staff and interns. When I think of the sheer magnitude of [...]

]]> By: listen up, guys : Grit and Glory http://www.gritandglory.com/2009/10/22/i-knew-the-whole-time/#comment-23562 listen up, guys : Grit and Glory Thu, 05 Nov 2009 05:36:51 +0000 http://www.gritandglory.com/?p=5577#comment-23562 [...] a post on this day last year, which may read a little differently now that you know what was going on in my life at the time I wrote [...] [...] a post on this day last year, which may read a little differently now that you know what was going on in my life at the time I wrote [...]

]]> By: Julie Todd http://www.gritandglory.com/2009/10/22/i-knew-the-whole-time/#comment-23484 Julie Todd Tue, 03 Nov 2009 22:01:51 +0000 http://www.gritandglory.com/?p=5577#comment-23484 Alece, As I read your words, I feel them. I want you to know something. The cloak of shame is removed. Jesus now covers you with his robe of righteousness. It's hard when the question comes and the denial sounds convincing. You know but you have not proof....and then the proof comes and you blame yourself for believing the person who has denied for so long. Denial always accompanies deceit... Sometimes it's hard to know you are being deceived. Even the waiting period for proof has it's way in Papa God's hands. He will use it to bring goodness into your life. But dear one, you must not allow the cloak of shame to cover you. For it does not belong to you. It was taken by Christ at the cross... it was placed on the fire and burned up. I see Jesus waiting right behind you. He's holding the cloak just behind you waiting for your arms to slip into it. In His eyes is a look of tender compassion. He wants you to wear His cloak. I see His eyes pleading with you to allow Him to place it on you. You delight HIm so! Alece,
As I read your words, I feel them. I want you to know something. The cloak of shame is removed. Jesus now covers you with his robe of righteousness. It’s hard when the question comes and the denial sounds convincing. You know but you have not proof….and then the proof comes and you blame yourself for believing the person who has denied for so long. Denial always accompanies deceit… Sometimes it’s hard to know you are being deceived.

Even the waiting period for proof has it’s way in Papa God’s hands. He will use it to bring goodness into your life. But dear one, you must not allow the cloak of shame to cover you.
For it does not belong to you. It was taken by Christ at the cross… it was placed on the fire and burned up.

I see Jesus waiting right behind you. He’s holding the cloak just behind you waiting for your arms to slip into it. In His eyes is a look of tender compassion. He wants you to wear His cloak. I see His eyes pleading with you to allow Him to place it on you.

You delight HIm so!

]]> By: i still we on myself : Grit and Glory http://www.gritandglory.com/2009/10/22/i-knew-the-whole-time/#comment-23384 i still we on myself : Grit and Glory Mon, 02 Nov 2009 06:30:28 +0000 http://www.gritandglory.com/?p=5577#comment-23384 [...] Loss. [...] [...] Loss. [...]

]]> By: alece http://www.gritandglory.com/2009/10/22/i-knew-the-whole-time/#comment-23187 alece Wed, 28 Oct 2009 04:24:05 +0000 http://www.gritandglory.com/?p=5577#comment-23187 thank you for this. for speaking from your heart. for sharing so transparently about your own struggle. God is faithful. He can and <i>will</i> redeem even THIS. thank you for this. for speaking from your heart. for sharing so transparently about your own struggle.

God is faithful. He can and will redeem even THIS.

]]> By: bajanpoet http://www.gritandglory.com/2009/10/22/i-knew-the-whole-time/#comment-23168 bajanpoet Tue, 27 Oct 2009 19:14:09 +0000 http://www.gritandglory.com/?p=5577#comment-23168 I have read everything written - all your story, and all the comments. All the way through. And I'm ... broken inside. I wondered whether <i>I</i> would have the courage to comment here - and I'm going to: come what may. Alece... I am SO SORRY. I was in Niel's position, earlier this year. I had fallen in love with someone other than my wife. In a year we were extremely close. I was very ready to move out to live with her - but it was impossible. It was an emotional affair with one of my friends online - and she's in the US and I'm in the Caribbean. Through a couple of my closest friends, I was confronted and I fought against it... but eventually I had to come to the place where my wife and I had an impasse. "Her or me," she said. It took me two days of fighting inside, but I decided that I would stay with my wife. I felt like I was cutting off an arm telling my friend that we are not going to talk anymore - and she reacted out of anger and hurt.. but I had to cut her off. It's not been easy these last couple months. But God is gradually restoring me. Some of my online friends know that I'm on <a href='http://bajanpoet.wordpress.com/about/' rel="nofollow">sabbatical from ministry</a> while I get through this, but over the months, my wife and I have gotten closer and she's forgiven me, even although we are both still going to counselling about it. But I have read your story - and now I <i>understand.</i> I am sorry that you have gone through this. I am sorry that I have been weak like Niel. I'm sorry as a man for all the hurt and pain that our weakness, our selfishness has caused you, and all the other women that have been touched by this. Please forgive me. I have read everything written – all your story, and all the comments. All the way through.

And I’m … broken inside.

I wondered whether I would have the courage to comment here – and I’m going to: come what may.

Alece… I am SO SORRY. I was in Niel’s position, earlier this year. I had fallen in love with someone other than my wife. In a year we were extremely close. I was very ready to move out to live with her – but it was impossible. It was an emotional affair with one of my friends online – and she’s in the US and I’m in the Caribbean. Through a couple of my closest friends, I was confronted and I fought against it… but eventually I had to come to the place where my wife and I had an impasse. “Her or me,” she said.

It took me two days of fighting inside, but I decided that I would stay with my wife.

I felt like I was cutting off an arm telling my friend that we are not going to talk anymore – and she reacted out of anger and hurt.. but I had to cut her off.

It’s not been easy these last couple months. But God is gradually restoring me. Some of my online friends know that I’m on sabbatical from ministry while I get through this, but over the months, my wife and I have gotten closer and she’s forgiven me, even although we are both still going to counselling about it.

But I have read your story – and now I understand.

I am sorry that you have gone through this. I am sorry that I have been weak like Niel. I’m sorry as a man for all the hurt and pain that our weakness, our selfishness has caused you, and all the other women that have been touched by this.

Please forgive me.

]]> By: alece http://www.gritandglory.com/2009/10/22/i-knew-the-whole-time/#comment-23091 alece Sun, 25 Oct 2009 01:52:25 +0000 http://www.gritandglory.com/?p=5577#comment-23091 "your worth measures deep in how you have impacted me by sharing" -- that really got me. thank you. “your worth measures deep in how you have impacted me by sharing” — that really got me. thank you.

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